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I’ve lived alone most of my adult life, and yet the loneliest I have ever felt was when I was briefly married. Turned out my ex was hiding a secret life, and that created a wall between us

— and between me and the world. Still, I find myself having to defend my happy solo lifestyle to the comfortably (and not-so-comfortably) coupled. “What will you do if Something Bad

Happens?” these people invariably ask, conjuring images of me lying on the floor unconscious (possibly because I fell off the ladder while changing the overhead light bulbs). Well, you do

have to plan for potential health crises as you get older — I mean, everybody does. But living alone doesn’t mean you have no social support system. In fact, it’s often just the opposite,

says Veronica Thomas, a professor of human development at Howard University in Washington, D.C. Compared to other adults, people who live solo are not only “more likely to have close

connections with their families of origin, but to have close connections with friends — their chosen families,” she says. “They socialize more often, exchange help more often.” They’re

also more likely to travel, Thomas adds. Sheila Kay, 55, a TikTok influencer and AI consultant who lives alone in Miami, affirms this. “I have a very deep girlfriend group,” she told me.

“Besides, just because you live with adult children or a spouse, it doesn’t mean they’re going to take care of you.” In my New York neighborhood and beyond, I have a plethora of good

friends, neighbors and family members who would come to my aid in time of need — as I would for them. I’m not sure how many concerned couples have benches that deep. Of course, the solo

life does have its challenges. One is the cost of living, since you’re not splitting expenses. People who live alone “may have higher health care, tax, insurance and estate-planning costs,”

says author and lifestyle gerontologist Alexis Abramson. And even though more American adults live alone than ever before — including nearly 13 percent of U.S. 50-some­things, according to

the Census Bureau — there is often a stigma attached. Thomas calls it “single shaming” and says it’s especially noticeable in real estate transactions, where landlords sometimes favor

couples over singles who are equally qualified. (FYI: Housing dis­crimination based on familial status is illegal.)