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“Her living will takes over now,” the nurse practitioner said the morning after my mother slipped into a coma. I was 51 weeks into 24-hours-a-day caregiving, which included constant

decision-making about hospital, rehab and nursing facility admissions, as well as readjustments of medication and treatment plans — without a break. Practically every day of caregiving held

life-or-death choices. Suddenly, there were no more decisions to make. All I had to do was be a daughter, to hold my mother’s hand, sing and talk to her, and wait. And when she died, my

heart, mind and soul were at peace. My mom’s living will said she did not want life support or to be kept alive when there was no chance that she could survive without life support.  After

examination and deliberation by her physicians, her final wishes were honored and carried out. It’s what she wanted. But her living will was also a gift to me, because without it, I wouldn’t

have been able to let go and know that beautiful peace. WHY IT MATTERS There are many reasons to make a living will: to give guidance to your doctors and health care surrogates, to

provide clarity and closure to your loved ones, to prevent conflict or disagreements among family members and to limit the emotional burden on the people closest to you at the time of

your death. Most important is that you remain the captain of your own ship, with the authority to dictate how you want to live and die. Considering that the majority of dying people are

unconscious, in distress or otherwise not able to speak, the living will serves as your voice when you may not have one. More than 80 percent of older adults understand the end-of-life

transition is an important part of life, but only 33 percent have made a living will, according to a 2024 AARP survey. That means a majority of Americans are rolling the dice on who will

make decisions for them at the end of their lives. WHAT IS A LIVING WILL A living will, part of your advanced directive, is a written, legally binding document that informs your doctors

about your preferences for medical care at the end of life. Because this is a legal document, you may use a lawyer to help you understand and write it. You do not need a professional,

however. With a little research and reflection, you may create your own living will with ease and at no cost. Every state has different laws and practices, so be sure to use a living will

that your state recognizes. Some use standard forms; others allow you to draft your own. Follow your state’s rules about what kind of witnesses you should use and whether the document

needs to be notarized.