Katy tur reflects on her father's 'rage and violence' before transition: 'she wasn't herself'

Katy tur reflects on her father's 'rage and violence' before transition: 'she wasn't herself'


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Katy Tur is shedding more light on her estranged relationship with her father. While appearing Monday on _CBS Mornings_ to promote her memoir _Rough Draft_, the MSNBC anchor, 38, detailed


the often volatile home life with her dad and fellow journalist Zoey Tur, who came out as transgender before they went 10 years without seeing each other. Tur explained how as a child she


would see her parents, who were both journalist in Los Angeles, scrapping on the job — but then her father's anger didn't stop at the door of her family's home. "The


fighting with the cops and the fighting with officials, I always kind of looked up to — I thought, 'This is how you act as a journalist, you push back. You push, push, push,'"


she explained. "The fighting with my mom, I didn't like, but it felt like, I guess, 'This is just what marriage is'? It felt normal." She detailed some of the


violent behavior, which included "fists and thrown batteries or thrown keys or holes in the wall. And, you know, there was [a spanking with] the belt if my brother and I misbehaved, and


it was ugly." Once her father come out as transgender, Katy said Zoey promised the dark side the Tur family had known would improve. "When my dad was transitioning, she said that


everything would be better because the rage would be gone, because the rage was all because she wasn't herself," she recalled. "And she told me, 'Bob Tur is dead. Bob Tur


is dead.'" But, said, Katy, "I wasn't ready to bury Bob Tur. I wanted to talk about all of the rage and the violence and the scary moments because I felt like, 'If


you want to transition into a new person, I'm all there for you — I'm with you, let's do it. But let's talk about what we need to talk about so we can all move forward,


so we can clean the slate." Katy noted that, despite the years-long rift with Zoey, she still has love for her dad. "I don't want to condemn my dad and say that my dad was


nothing but bad — because that's not true. I love my father. I love my father. And we had so much fun together," she said. "We are not speaking, and that's what makes it


harder. I wish the relationship was better. I wish it was better." RELATED VIDEO: AN UNWANTED KISS FROM DONALD TRUMP AND TAUNTS OF 'LITTLE KATY:' NBC'S KATY TUR DISHES ON


COVERING CAMPAIGN Zoey, 62, previously made a separate appearance on _CBS Sunday Morning_, recalling that she and her daughter "were very close." Adding Zoey, "She really


looked up to me, and I failed her. No father wants to fail their daughter." "I'm not hiding anymore. And if it takes an act of public humiliation in front of a camera to make


Katy feel better, feel vindicated, so be it. I'm happy to do that. I love her that much," she said. Katy Tur's book _Rough Draft: A Memoir_ is available on Tuesday.