
Netflix’s ‘indian matchmaking’ at the emmys: the problems with nominating this indian ‘reality’
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At a time when most people were glued to screens, streaming non-stop to escape pandemic realties, Netflix’s _Indian Matchmaking_, released in July 2020, created global buzz for all the wrong
reasons. What was it about a show with “Indian” in the title that made it trend not only on Netflix India, but also Netflix Canada? The show eventually scored an Emmy nomination that was
met with disconcerted displeasure from Indians and the Indian diaspora. With the Emmys airing on Sunday, how did a show that hinges on regressive principles of caste and colourism, not to
mention flippant misogyny, land itself a nomination? NOSTALGIC AFFIRMATIONS At the outset, the premise of _Indian Matchmaking_ is about normalizing, or even valorizing the tired trope of
arranged marriages in India. The institution of arranged marriage essentially dictates caste-based discrimination in India, falling prey to blatant religious politics. The fundamental
backbone of Hindu religion has been the historically violent caste system — rigid social groups characterized by hereditary transmission of life style, occupation and social status — which
has been relayed and protected through generations by same-caste marriages. In the show, the Indian diaspora in the United States is shown to idolize marrying in one’s own culture (read:
caste). Cultural theorist Stuart Hall explains that any diaspora tends to hook itself in familiarized, nostalgic affirmations with one’s culture of origin, which he terms as “associational
identification.” The characters and framing of the show reinforce such notions, suggesting that the couples similarity in culture is based on their religion and upper caste. UPPER CLASS,
UPPER CASTE The show is called “Indian” Matchmaking, but “Indian” is substitute for Hindu traditionalism, and glorifies upper-class, upper-caste, Hindu marriages. Defending the lack of
inclusivity in the show, executive producer Smriti Mundhra said in a recent interview “one cannot make a show that’s going to represent 1.3 billion people across the globe.” While Mundhra’s
response might have some truth to it, why was it important to tell this story? Are we meant to be drawn in by the story of the show’s matchmaker, Sima Taparia? While introducing herself as
“Sima from Mumbai” to characters in the U.S., Taparia implicitly dissociates herself from India, affirming her allegiance to a privileged Mumbai-based reality. Her “Indian” matchmaking only
engages Hindu, upper caste, upper class, while blatantly favouring men. The only people who get equal, if not more, screen time than Taparia are Pradyuman and Akshay — two painfully wealthy,
privileged, upper caste Mumbai men. While the shows creators try to spin it as a progressive version of matchmaking that upholds renewed cultural values, it is an evident miss. A RETURN TO
ROOTS Despite the show’s portrayal of Indians in the American diaspora, the idea of “a return to roots” works as a redeeming angle on a global platform but panders to a “foreign”
(non-Indian), North American gaze. Sure, _Indian Matchmaking_ is a show about Indians, featured in Netflix India, but it fails to capture an “Indianness” that is nuanced and personal to
people of Indian origin. Instead of portraying a complex narrative of human relationships informed by generational differences and regressive customs, the show refashions it all into a
skewed idea of India. By indulging the common stereotype of rich Indians following regressive customs, the show ends up becoming another weary caricature of India and Indians on a global
platform. The show highlights the diasporic Indian as a guardian of “traditional” Indian identity, as they yearn for a partner from “home.” WHAT DOES AN EMMY NOMINATION SAY? The Emmy
nomination under the category of “Outstanding Unstructured Reality Program” is not only problematic, but it also fuels fantasies of the fantastical Orient. In post-colonial studies, this
signifies the misconstrued notion of the East as backward and exotic — an antonym to the flourishing, modern West. For years, the only palatable portrayal of India for the West was often
seen in the likes of _Slumdog Millionaire_ or _Indiana Jones and The Temple of Doom_ or even _Eat, Pray, Love_. These portrayals are palatable as they feed a stereotypical notion of the
India, which are more compatible with orientalist assumptions. While the show has been widely critiqued, and many viewers are aware of the show’s problems, receiving an Emmy nomination has
become cause for confusion. While there is no way one can imagine the forces that came into play for its nomination, the fact that _Indian Matchmaking_ received the recognition is
unsettling. It goes without saying that to witness South Asian representation on a global platform is liberating, but what one is being represented for is of more importance, if not the
most. Receiving recognition for romanticizing the deeply flawed institution of arranged marriages, which is an unfortunate reality for many Indians, is worrying. _Indian Matchmaking_ threw
away a glorious opportunity to engage in critical, cultural conversation. As a second season is underway, will it take its criticisms into consideration?