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Is sex after 50 like an older man's hair — first it recedes, then it leaves? That may sound like a cruel joke, but regrettably there's some truth to it. After 50, libido declines;

older men suffer balky erections or erectile dysfunction (ED), and older women suffer vaginal dryness or atrophy. Even with lubricants and erection medication, these changes often make

intercourse difficult or impossible. But if you let go of the idea that sex equals intercourse, older sex might just be the best of your life. Here's why: OLDER LOVERS ARE MORE IN SYNC

Young love is hot and exciting, but many young men are finished and falling asleep while their partners are still warming up. In addition, young women tend to be less genitally focused than

young men, and more interested in playful, mutual whole-body massage. These gender differences can cause conflict. After 50, thankfully, men's and women's erotic sensibilities

start to converge. Men need more time to become aroused; as erection and intercourse grow problematic, men warm up to the idea of whole-body sensuality. "Compared with young

lovers," says developmental psychologist Richard Sprott, "older couples are more sexually similar. Couples who appreciate this can enjoy richer, more fulfilling sex at 65 than they

had at 25 — even if the men can't manage intercourse." OLDER MEN DON'T NEED TO GET IT UP TO GET IT ON At every age, sexologists agree, satisfying lovemaking has less to do

with rock-hard erections and frenzied intercourse than with kissing, cuddling and leisurely, playful touching all over — mutual whole-body massage that includes the genitals but doesn't

fixate on them. This message is often lost on testosterone-fueled younger men. They impulsively rush into intercourse, resulting in premature ejaculation (and frustrated women). Older men,

less driven by their hormones, can learn to embrace outercourse — mutual whole-body pleasuring with fingers, lips, tongues and sex toys. This alternative approach enables them to enjoy

deeply satisfying lovemaking without intercourse, or even erections. OLDER MEN DON'T NEED ERECTIONS TO HAVE ORGASMS This surprises many men, but it's true. In an erotic context

with vigorous, extended stimulation, a man with a semi-firm or even flaccid penis can still enjoy a satisfying orgasm. SAVE MONEY: GET AARP MEMBER DISCOUNTS ON TRAVEL, SHOPPING AND MORE